There are obvious differences between romantic love and brotherly/sisterly love. However, when the love that we show to our brothers and sisters in Christ must also be shown to the person who we are in a relationship with.
Love is patient, so we must also be patient when it comes to guys! Even when they love the Lord and are on the right path that doesn’t mean they can just move when we want them to move. Now this doesn’t mean that you should let some guy in your life start consuming all your time without being intentional, but it also doesn’t mean he has to move to worst-person-ever status either.
God doesn’t need you to try and “save” a guy or fix him or prepare him for marriage, but you can show patience. It is wise to not stay in a dating relationship (or a situationship) with someone who isn’t serious about the Lord or you, but again, remember to show love. Don’t let any guy walk over you, but again show love. And sometimes, love is tough. Sometimes you might have to be the one who looks at a dating relationship and realize that he is not ready or you are not ready. Either way, continue to show love. Talk to your pastor or whoever servers as a spiritual leader in your life and invite them to pray with you if you’re struggling with your relationship or marriage, but continue to love.
Even when others have hurt us and done terrible things that are non justifiable, we still have to remember that while their behavior is by no means excusable, Jesus still loves them because He has loved each of us at our worst. So even though we as individuals are not responsible for their salvation and they must learn to know the love of Jesus themselves, no matter what, we CAN choose to not gossip and not automatically think there’s no hope for them. We can instead choose to love them when Jesus loved us…at our darkest.
Morgan Harper Nichols