When it comes to the things you desire in relationships, don’t be so quick to focus on the bad. Even when others have done you wrong, don’t allow yourself to carry baggage from old friendships and old relationships into new ones. Today’s reading is a reminder to be kind to one another and to forgive because Christ forgave us.
When we forgive those who hurt us in the past, whether it was someone you called a friend, a sister, or even someone you were dating, you have to remember that forgiveness involves letting go as well. Don’t allow yourself to say things like “All women do is cause drama,” or “Church people are the worst,” or “I’m fine by myself and I don’t need anyone else.” When you let these kind of words escape your lips or fill your heart, you’re letting that old hurt and those old experiences still take up residence in your life. The hurt may be real, but you have to let it go, and trust that God is going to deal with the people who caused that pain. Your job is to let go and find freedom in doing so.
One sure way to find and build real Christian community is to find freedom in Christ! Find freedom in forgiving all of those who hurt you or cause you to question people’s motives and agendas. It’s so important that we let go of these things, because it keeps us from moving forward. It keeps us from being able to be build godly, healthy relationships in the future.
So, don’t hone in on all of the wrong that has been done to you. What they did to you very well might not be justified, but let God be the One who deals with their actions. Let go of all the bitterness that’s been building up and take the higher road. Forgive, find freedom, and move on.
Morgan Harper Nichols