1 John 3:18
Do you find yourself in a place where your circle of friends has changed? Maybe you just graduated or moved and the Christian friends you saw all the time are no longer there in person. You stay in touch with calls, texts, and social media, but you need friends where you are. You need friends you can show God’s love to and receive love in return. Making new friends who are intentionally seeking God’s heart can feel almost impossible. It was easy to make sure your old friends knew you loved them. You likely told them and showed them by what you did. They likely did the same for you. Walking up to a stranger and saying “I love you” might not be the best introduction, and you don’t know a new person well enough to show them love in a sentimental way.
How do you make friends when it’s hard to know where to start? One great way to show God’s love and make friends is to volunteer. Look for small but often overlooked opportunities. Consider things you like to do, and look for ways you can help. Maybe your church nursery needs a volunteer or someone to help serve food at a picnic. Pay attention at an event you’re attending. If you see people putting away chairs, ask if you can help. Helping behind the scenes is less intimidating than being the new person having all eyes on her, and conversation naturally flows while accomplishing a common task. There aren’t awkward pauses when a baby is crying, you’re serving food, or you’re lifting chairs. Try out different areas where you can help. You’ll meet new people and fill a need for someone else at the same time. Many times friendships are made when you find a common goal you can accomplish together. You develop a bond as you both show love towards each other and other people.