Even if a guy is meeting your current needs, never settle for being a friend with benefits. Trust God to supply your needs in Jesus and He will take care of your heart, and prepare you for a love that is real.
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:19
In this passage, the Apostle Paul has just thanked the church of Philippi for their generosity to him even when other churches did not take care of them. However, in this verse he reminds the Philippians that despite their generosity to him, it is God who meets all of his needs. When it comes to relationships, *situationships* or being single, we have to remember that no matter how great or how terrible it may be, God is still the one who is supplying our needs. There is no need to run to friends-with-benefits situations to fill your needs.
Physically: Desiring intimacy isn’t wrong, but it needs to be at the right time and it isn’t something to just throw around. With anything you do with a guy, you are literally giving him a part of yourself…I know it’s hard, but you have to think about what you’re giving to him. If you’re tempted or if you’re unsure of when to be intimate and what’s too far, I encourage you to pray about it. I know it might seem like God wouldn’t be able to help you with these things, but He is the one to talk to! Also, pray for Him to open your eyes to meet women in your life to look up to that you can talk to! An accountability partner can be so helpful in these situations. And ultimately, God is the one to turn to when you’re tempted, confused, or struggling in this area.
Emotionally: The hard thing about this for some is that you could potentially be in an emotional friends-with-benefits situation and not even realize it. Have you been texting on talking on a phone a lot to a guy who has not made his intentions known to you? Do you find your heart fluttering when he flirts with you, or notices you, even though he isn’t pursuing you? Sometimes you might be tempted to hold on because you’re just hoping that one day after the months and months that he’ll finally pursue you. However, it’s important to know that you don’t have to lean on these kinds of hopes to fulfill your needs. Your hope is in the Lord. Lean into that.