Friends, often it can feel like an exercise in patience building “forever friendships” can’t it?! Other times it’s like you are the same person with the same brain; two peas in pod. When you come upon those hard times of differing opinions, don’t fret and don’t pull back. Instead, continually seek discernment from above. It’s in those times you can truly learn to bear one another’s burdens.
In the midst of deep pain, confusion, and maybe even habitual sins, your friendship can be planting seeds. It might not be something you can relate to, but how wonderful to find how our different situations can yield similar fruit. When you feel at a loss for words to say, maybe that’s the moment to sit in quiet solidarity. When her tears are flowing and your heart is aching, maybe that is the moment to hold her in quiet comfort. When she feels the need to talk, maybe that is the moment for bold conversation. Look for those moments; they’re usually hidden in our sweet need to fix things for our friends.
You, my precious daughter, much like Esther in her day, were created for such a time as this! You’ve seen, if you look left or right, the need for current culture’s non-judgmental stance. What is in short supply, are friends who will ride with you through the rough times in their friendships. There are times that may call for unconditional love, faithful accountability, and old fashioned loyalty. There are also times where counting on Jesus to do the ultimate work is all you lean on.
It’s the worst when we can see the problem, know the route to the answer, but have to watch as someone finds her own path to the solution. Let your encouragement light the way as Jesus does the work!